Do you want to know a secret? The secret to great style? It requires great effort.
That’s right. All those women you see walking around looking “effortlessly” fabulous have actually put in a lot of effort behind the scenes. It’s true that some women may enjoy that effort more than others but they have still put in work to learn about style, shop for the right pieces, keep their closets organized and put in effort that very morning to look great that day.
I’ve been noticing this as a topic of conversation lately with my clients. She’ll tell me about her co-worker or her friend who always looks so effortlessly amazing and she doesn’t understand what’s wrong with her that she can’t get it right on her own. She thinks she doesn’t “get it”, and people who’ve got style or are in fashion “get it”. In reality, it’s how much time you want to put into it.
I feel I am doing a disservice to many women by not stating more clearly that it’s not effortless for anybody, even though it may seem that way from the outside. If you want to get fit, you’d expect to put in time to cook healthy meals and go to the gym, and you may even hire a personal trainer to guide you through the process and keep you on track, it’s the same thing with your style. If you want to have a wardrobe that works, you have to either invest the time yourself or hire someone to invest some of that time for you (and, of course, that’s what I’m here for) but you don’t just get it without any effort whatsoever.
It’s part of human nature to want to make things look effortless. We want people to think we’re just naturally happy and healthy and successful, our children are adorable, we’re confident and we look great. But the truth is, all of this takes effort. We naturally want to show the good stuff and hide the hard work and the not so good. But, I’m lifting the veil.
The freedom in this is that you can do it. You can have style, you can enjoy everything you wear everyday, you can look better. For those who it’s not a fun thing, then get some help to cut some corners. But, keep in mind that, even with professional help, you will have to put in some work. You will have to start thinking about what you like by looking on Pinterest, in magazines or window shopping. Through this process, you’ll find you do have an idea of what you like or don’t like, even if you feel unsure before you get started. You’ll have to spend time trying on clothes, shoes and accessories to make sure the right ones make a home in your closet and you’ll have to spend time trying on things that are already in your closet so that you can purge the ones that don’t work and create great outfits with the ones that do.
Even I put a lot of effort into my wardrobe. People assume that because it’s my job, style just comes to me miraculously but it’s not true. As I’m typing this, my office is filled with a mess of boxes and packing materials and boots that need to be returned and tried on (update: I ordered seven pair of boots online and kept one). The last time I went shopping for pants, I tried on 6 pair and didn’t buy a single one. Finding the right pieces takes effort. Yesterday morning, I spent an hour and a half putting together a few outfit combinations to have as go-tos for the rest of the month. It may look effortless to my friends who I met early Saturday morning for a walk who thought I looked fabulous for so early in the morning and it actually did only take me 10 minutes to get out the door that morning but that’s because I put in the effort previously to have some easy go-to outfits and throw-together hair and make up options.
It’s like anything in life, if you want something, you have to put the time in. Nothing comes from no effort, ever. Now get in your closet and do the work because things will not change until you do. Or, call me if you’re ready to do the work but want some guidance through the process. I’m like a personal trainer for your wardrobe.